Even when heartbroken we never say that which displeases Allah

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "A child was born into me tonight night and I named him after my father Ibrāhīm." He then sent him to Umm Sayf, the wife of a blacksmith named Abū Sayf. ˹The Prophet ﷺ˺ went to him and I followed him until we reached Abu Sayf while he was blowing fire with the help of blacksmith's bellows and the house was filled with smoke. I hastened my step and went ahead of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said: Abū Sayf, stop it, as there comes the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. He stopped and the Prophet ﷺ called for the child. He embraced him and said what Allah had desired. Anas said: I saw that the boy breathed his last in the presence of Messenger of Allah ﷺ. The eyes of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ shed tears and he said: "Our eyes shed tears and our hearts are filled with grief, but we do not say anything except that by which Allah is pleased. O Ibrāhīm, by Allah, we are grieved for you."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «وُلِدَ لِيَ اللَّيْلَةَ غُلاَمٌ فَسَمَّيْتُهُ بِاسْمِ أَبِي إِبْرَاهِيمَ۔» ثُمَّ دَفَعَهُ إِلَى أُمِّ سَيْفٍ امْرَأَةِ قَيْنٍ يُقَالُ لَهُ أَبُو سَيْفٍ فَانْطَلَقَ يَأْتِيهِ وَاتَّبَعْتُهُ فَانْتَهَيْنَا إِلَى أَبِي سَيْفٍ وَهُوَ يَنْفُخُ بِكِيرِهِ قَدِ امْتَلأَ الْبَيْتُ دُخَانًا فَأَسْرَعْتُ الْمَشْىَ بَيْنَ يَدَىْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقُلْتُ يَا أَبَا سَيْفٍ أَمْسِكْ جَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَأَمْسَكَ فَدَعَا النَّبِيُّ ﷺ بِالصَّبِيِّ فَضَمَّهُ إِلَيْهِ وَقَالَ مَا شَاءَ اللَّهُ أَنْ يَقُولَ فَقَالَ أَنَسٌ لَقَدْ رَأَيْتُهُ وَهُوَ يَكِيدُ بِنَفْسِهِ بَيْنَ يَدَىْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَدَمَعَتْ عَيْنَا رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ: «تَدْمَعُ الْعَيْنُ وَيَحْزَنُ الْقَلْبُ، وَلاَ نَقُولُ إِلاَّ مَا يَرْضَى رَبُّنَا۔ وَاللَّهِ يَا إِبْرَاهِيمُ، إِنَّا بِكَ لَمَحْزُونُونَ۔»  

I have never seen anyone more kind to one's family than Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and Ibrahim was sent to the suburb of Medina for suckling. He used to go there and we accompanied him. He entered the house, and it was filled with smoke as his foster-father was a bricksmith. He took him (his son Ibrihim) and kissed him and then came back. 'Amr said that when Ibrihim died. Allah's LMessenger ﷺ said: Ibrihim is my son and he dies as a suckling babe. He has now two foster-mothers who would complete his suckling period in Paradise.  

مَا رَأَيْتُ أَحَدًا كَانَ أَرْحَمَ بِالْعِيَالِ مِنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ كَانَ إِبْرَاهِيمُ مُسْتَرْضِعًا لَهُ فِي عَوَالِي الْمَدِينَةِ فَكَانَ يَنْطَلِقُ وَنَحْنُ مَعَهُ فَيَدْخُلُ الْبَيْتَ وَإِنَّهُ لَيُدَّخَنُ وَكَانَ ظِئْرُهُ قَيْنًا فَيَأْخُذُهُ فَيُقَبِّلُهُ ثُمَّ يَرْجِعُ قَالَ عَمْرٌو فَلَمَّا تُوُفِّيَ إِبْرَاهِيمُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِنَّ إِبْرَاهِيمَ ابْنِي وَإِنَّهُ مَاتَ فِي الثَّدْىِ وَإِنَّ لَهُ لَظِئْرَيْنِ تُكَمِّلاَنِ رَضَاعَهُ فِي الْجَنَّةِ  

Do you kiss your children? He said: Yes. Thereupon they said: By Allah but we do not kiss our children. Thereupon Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: Then what can I do if Allah has deprived you of mercy? Ibn Numair said: (We has deprived) your heart of mercy.  

قَدِمَ نَاسٌ مِنَ الأَعْرَابِ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالُوا أَتُقَبِّلُونَ صِبْيَانَكُمْ فَقَالُوا نَعَمْ فَقَالُوا لَكِنَّا وَاللَّهِ مَا نُقَبِّلُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَأَمْلِكُ إِنْ كَانَ اللَّهُ نَزَعَ مِنْكُمُ الرَّحْمَةَ وَقَالَ ابْنُ نُمَيْرٍ مِنْ قَلْبِكَ الرَّحْمَةَ  

I have ten children, but I have never kissed any one of them, whereupon Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: He who does not show mercy (towards his children), no mercy would be shown to him.  

أَنَّ الأَقْرَعَ بْنَ حَابِسٍ أَبْصَرَ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ يُقَبِّلُ الْحَسَنَ فَقَالَ إِنَّ لِي عَشَرَةً مِنَ الْوَلَدِ مَا قَبَّلْتُ وَاحِدًا مِنْهُمْ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِنَّهُ مَنْ لاَ يَرْحَمْ لاَ يُرْحَمْ  

The above hadith has likewise been narrated through another chain of transmitters.  

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ بِمِثْلِهِ  

" That the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: He who shows no mercy to the people, Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, does not show mercy to him."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَنْ لاَ يَرْحَمِ النَّاسَ لاَ يَرْحَمْهُ اللَّهُ ﷻ  

This hadith has been narrated on the authority of Jarir through other chains of transmitters.  

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ ح وَحَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ وَابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ وَأَحْمَدُ بْنُ عَبْدَةَ قَالُوا حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ عَمْرٍو عَنْ نَافِعِ بْنِ جُبَيْرٍ عَنْ جَرِيرٍ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ بِمِثْلِ حَدِيثِ الأَعْمَشِ