"The Prophet ﷺ said, 'The best alms is that which is given when one is rich, and a giving hand is better than a taking one, and you should start first to support your dependents.' A wife says, 'You should either provide me with food or divorce me.' A slave says, 'Give me food and enjoy my service." A son says, "Give me food; to whom do you leave me?" The people said, "O Abu Huraira! Did you hear that from Messenger of Allah ﷺ ?" He said, "No, it is from my own self."  

قَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ أَفْضَلُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا تَرَكَ غِنًى وَالْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَابْدَأْ بِمَنْ تَعُولُ تَقُولُ الْمَرْأَةُ إِمَّا أَنْ تُطْعِمَنِي وَإِمَّا أَنْ تُطَلِّقَنِي وَيَقُولُ الْعَبْدُ أَطْعِمْنِي وَاسْتَعْمِلْنِي وَيَقُولُ الاِبْنُ أَطْعِمْنِي إِلَى مَنْ تَدَعُنِي فَقَالُوا يَا أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ سَمِعْتَ هَذَا مِنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ لاَ هَذَا مِنْ كِيسِ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "The best kind of charity is that which is given when one is still prosperous, and your wife asks you to feed her, otherwise she asks for divorce, and your servant asks you to feed him, otherwise he asks to be sold, and your child asks you to whom will you entrust him?" They said, "O Abu Hurairah, is this something that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, or is it from your own opinion?" He replied, "No, this is from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ ."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِنَّ أَفْضَلَ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا تَرَكَ غِنًى تَقُولُ امْرَأَتُكَ أَطْعِمْنِي وَإِلَّا فَطَلِّقْنِي وَيَقُولُ خَادِمُكَ أَطْعِمْنِي وَإِلَّا فَبِعْنِي وَيَقُولُ وَلَدُكَ إِلَى مَنْ تَكِلُنِي قَالُوا يَا أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ هَذَا شَيْءٌ قَالَهُ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمْ هَذَا مِنْ كِيسِكَ؟ قَالَ بَلْ هَذَا مِنْ كِيسِي  

[Machine] The Prophet ﷺ said: "The best charity is what is given when one is wealthy, and the upper hand is better than the lower hand. Begin with those whom you are responsible for." Abu Hurairah was asked, "Who are those you are responsible for?" He replied, "Your wife might say, 'Feed me, or spend on me if you have doubt, for Abu 'Amir is my rival.' And your servant might say, 'Feed me and employ me.' And your daughter might ask, 'To whom will you leave me?'"  

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ خَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا كَانَ عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنًى وَالْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَابْدَأْ بِمَنْ تَعُولُ قَالَ سُئِلَ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ مَا مَنْ تَعُولُ؟ قَالَ امْرَأَتُكَ تَقُولُ أَطْعِمْنِي أَوْ أَنْفِقْ عَلَيَّ شَكَّ أَبُو عَامِرٍ أَوْ طَلِّقْنِي وَخَادِمُكَ يَقُولُ أَطْعِمْنِي وَاسْتَعْمِلْنِي وَابْنَتُكَ تَقُولُ إِلَى مَنْ تَذَرُنِي؟