21. Social Behaviour

٢١۔ كتاب ذات البين

adab:385

Umm Kulthum, the daughter of 'Uqba ibn Abi Mu'ayt, reported that she heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, "Someone who makes peace between people by saying something good or relates something good is not a liar."  

الأدب المفرد:٣٨٥حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ صَالِحٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي اللَّيْثُ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي يُونُسُ عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي حُمَيْدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ أَنَّ أُمَّهَ أُمَّ كُلْثُومِ ابْنَةَ عُقْبَةَ بْنِ أَبِي مُعَيْطٍ أَخْبَرَتْهُ

أَنَّهَا سَمِعَتْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ لَيْسَ الْكَذَّابُ الَّذِي يُصْلِحُ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ فَيَقُولُ خَيْرًا أَوْ يَنْمِي خَيْرًا قَالَتْ وَلَمْ أَسْمَعْهُ يُرَخِّصُ فِي شَيْءٍ مِمَّا يَقُولُ النَّاسُ مِنَ الْكَذِبِ إِلاَّ فِي ثَلاَثٍ الإِصْلاَحِ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ وَحَدِيثِ الرَّجُلِ امْرَأَتَهُ وَحَدِيثِ الْمَرْأَةِ زَوْجَهَا  

adab:386

'Abdullah reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "You must be truthful. Truthfulness leads to dutifulness and dutifulness leads to the Garden. A man continues to tell the truth until he is written as a siddiq with Allah. Beware of lying. Lying leads to deviance and deviance leads to the Fire. A man continues to lie until he is written as a liar with Allah."  

الأدب المفرد:٣٨٦حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ دَاوُدَ عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ عَنْ أَبِي وَائِلٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ عَلَيْكُمْ بِالصِّدْقِ فَإِنَّ الصِّدْقَ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْبِرِّ وَإِنَّ الْبِرَّ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ يَصْدُقُ حَتَّى يُكْتَبَ عِنْدَ اللهِ صِدِّيقًا وَإِيَّاكُمْ وَالْكَذِبَ فَإِنَّ الْكَذِبَ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْفُجُورِ وَالْفُجُورَ يَهْدِي إِلَى النَّارِ وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيَكْذِبُ حَتَّى يُكْتَبَ عِنْدَ اللهِ كَذَّابًا  

adab:387

'Abdullah said, "Lying is not correct, neither in seriousness nor in jest. None of you should promise his child something and then not give it to him."  

الأدب المفرد:٣٨٧حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا جَرِيرٌ عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ عَنْ مُجَاهِدٍ عَنْ أَبِي مَعْمَرٍ

عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ قَالَ لاَ يَصْلُحُ الْكَذِبُ فِي جِدٍّ وَلاَ هَزْلٍ وَلاَ أَنْ يَعِدَ أَحَدُكُمْ وَلَدَهُ شَيْئًا ثُمَّ لاَ يُنْجِزُ لَهُ  

adab:388

Ibn 'Umar reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "The believer who mixes with people and endures their injury is better than the person who does not mix with people nor endure their injury."  

الأدب المفرد:٣٨٨حَدَّثَنَا آدَمُ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ وَثَّابٍ عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ الْمُؤْمِنُ الَّذِي يُخَالِطُ النَّاسَ وَيَصْبِرُ عَلَى أَذَاهُمْ خَيْرٌ مِنَ الَّذِي لاَ يُخَالِطُ النَّاسَ وَلاَ يَصْبِرُ عَلَى أَذَاهُمْ  

adab:389

Abu Musa reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "No one - nothing - is more patient in enduring an injury which he hears than Allah Almighty. They claim that He has a son, and yet He still cures them and provides for them."  

الأدب المفرد:٣٨٩حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ عَنْ سُفْيَانَ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي الأَعْمَشُ عَنْ سَعِيدِ بْنِ جُبَيْرٍ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ السُّلَمِيِّ عَنْ أَبِي مُوسَى

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ أَوْ لَيْسَ شَيْءٌ أَصْبَرَ عَلَى أَذًى يَسْمَعُهُ مِنَ اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ وَإِنَّهُمْ لَيَدَّعُونَ لَهُ وَلَدًا وَإِنَّهُ لَيُعَافِيهِمْ وَيَرْزُقُهُمْ  

adab:390

'Abdullah said, "The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, swore an oath like one of the oaths that people swear and a man of the Ansar said, 'By Allah, it is not an oath by which the Face of Allah Almighty is desired." I said, 'I will tell the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace. I went to him while he was with his Companions and I spoke to him in confidence. It clearly affected him greatly, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and his face changed colour so that I wished that I had not told him. Then he said, 'Musa was injured with greater than that and he endured it.'"  

الأدب المفرد:٣٩٠حَدَّثَنَا عُمَرُ بْنُ حَفْصٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا أَبِي قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا الأَعْمَشُ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ شَقِيقًا يَقُولُ

قَالَ عَبْدُ اللهِ قَسَمَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ قِسْمَةً كَبَعْضِ مَا كَانَ يَقْسِمُ فَقَالَ رَجُلٌ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ وَاللَّهِ إِنَّهَا لَقِسْمَةٌ مَا أُرِيدَ بِهَا وَجْهَ اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ قُلْتُ أَنَا لَأَقُولَنَّ لِلنَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَأَتَيْتُهُ وَهُوَ فِي أَصْحَابِهِ فَسَارَرْتُهُ فَشَقَّ ذَلِكَ عَلَيْهِ ﷺ وَتَغَيَّرَ وَجْهُهُ وَغَضِبَ حَتَّى وَدِدْتُ أَنِّي لَمْ أَكُنْ أَخْبَرَتْهُ ثُمَّ قَالَ قَدْ أُوذِيَ مُوسَى بِأَكْثَرَ مِنْ ذَلِكَ فَصَبَرَ  

adab:391

Abu'd-Darda' reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Shall I tell you a degree better than prayer, fasting and sadaqa?" "Yes," they replied. He went to say, Improving a state of friendship. Causing discord in a state of friendship is what shaves things away."  

الأدب المفرد:٣٩١حَدَّثَنَا صَدَقَةُ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ مُرَّةَ عَنْ سَالِمِ بْنِ أَبِي الْجَعْدِ عَنْ أُمِّ الدَّرْدَاءِ عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ أَلاَ أُنَبِّئُكُمْ بِدَرَجَةٍ أَفْضَلَ مِنَ الصَّلاَةِ وَالصِّيَامِ وَالصَّدَقَةِ؟ قَالُوا بَلَى قَالَ صَلاَحُ ذَاتِ الْبَيْنِ وَفَسَادُ ذَاتِ الْبَيْنِ هِيَ الْحَالِقَةُ  

adab:392Regarding the ayat:

"Fear Allah and put things right between you," (8:1), Ibn 'Abbas said, "This is an injunction from Allah to the believers to fear Allah and to put things right between them."  

الأدب المفرد:٣٩٢حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبَّادُ بْنُ الْعَوَّامِ قَالَ أَخْبَرَنَا سُفْيَانُ بْنُ الْحُسَيْنِ عَنِ الْحَكَمِ عَنْ مُجَاهِدٍ عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ {فَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَأَصْلِحُوا ذَاتَ بَيْنِكُمْ} قَالَ هَذَا تَحْرِيجٌ مِنَ اللهِ عَلَى الْمُؤْمِنِينَ أَنْ يَتَّقُوا اللَّهَ

وَأَنْ يُصْلِحُوا ذَاتَ بَيْنِهِمْ  

adab:393

Sufyan ibn Usayd al-Hadrami reported that he heard the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, "It is great treachery to tell something to your brother so that he believes you when you are lying to him."  

الأدب المفرد:٣٩٣حَدَّثَنَا حَيْوَةُ بْنُ شُرَيْحٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا بَقِيَّةُ عَنْ ضُبَارَةَ بْنِ مَالِكٍ الْحَضْرَمِيِّ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ جُبَيْرِ بْنِ نُفَيْرٍ أَنَّ أَبَاهُ حَدَّثَهُ أَنَّ سُفْيَانَ بْنَ أُسَيْدٍ الْحَضْرَمِيَّ

حَدَّثَهُ أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ يَقُولُ كَبُرَتْ خِيَانَةً أَنْ تُحَدِّثَ أَخَاكَ حَدِيثًا هُوَ لَكَ مُصَدِّقٌ وَأَنْتَ لَهُ كَاذِبٌ  

adab:394

Ibn 'Abbas reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Do not dispute with your brother. Do not make fun of him. Do not make a promise to him and then break it."  

الأدب المفرد:٣٩٤حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ الْمُحَارِبِيُّ عَنْ لَيْثٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ لاَ تُمَارِ أَخَاكَ وَلاَ تُمَازِحْهُ وَلاَ تَعِدْهُ مَوْعِدًا فَتُخْلِفَهُ  

adab:395Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "There are two courses that my Community will not abandon:

wailing and attacking a person's lineage."  

الأدب المفرد:٣٩٥حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَاصِمٍ عَنِ ابْنِ عَجْلاَنَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ شُعْبَتَانِ لاَ تَتْرُكُهُمَا أُمَّتِي النِّيَاحَةُ وَالطَّعْنُ فِي الأَنْسَابِ  

adab:396

A woman called Fusayla said that she heard her father say, "I asked, 'Messenger of Allah, is it part of disobedience for a man to help his people in something which is unjust?' 'Yes,' he replied."  

الأدب المفرد:٣٩٦حَدَّثَنَا زَكَرِيَّا قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا الْحَكَمُ بْنُ الْمُبَارَكِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا زِيَادُ بْنُ الرَّبِيعِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي عَبَّادٌ الرَّمْلِيُّ قَالَ حَدَّثَتْنِي امْرَأَةٌ يُقَالُ لَهَا فُسَيْلَةُ قَالَتْ

سَمِعْتُ أَبِي يَقُولُ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَمِنَ الْعَصَبِيَّةِ أَنْ يُعِينَ الرَّجُلُ قَوْمَهُ عَلَى ظُلْمٍ؟ قَالَ نَعَمْ