“I was a man who had an issue with intercourse with a women that none other than me had. When (the month of) Ramadan entered, I pronounced Zihar upon my wife (to last) until the end of Ramadan, fearing that I might have an encounter with her during the night, and I would continue doing that until daylight came upon me, and I would not be able to stop. One night while she was serving me, something of her became exposed for me, so I rushed myself upon her. When the morning came I went to my people to inform them about what happened to me. I said: ‘Accompany me to the Messenger of Allah to inform him about my case.’ They said: ‘No by Allah! We shall not do that, we feat that something will be revealed about us in the Qur’an, or the Messenger of Allah might say something about us, the disgrace of which will remain upon us. But you do and do whatever you want.’” He said: “So I left and I went to the Messenger of Allah, and informed him of my case. He said: ‘You are the one who did that?” I said: ‘I am the one.’ He said: ‘You are the one who did that?” I said: ‘I am the one.’ He said: ‘You are the one who did that?” I said: ‘I am the one, it is before you, so give me Allah’s judgment, for I shall be patient with that.’ He said: ‘Free a slave.’” He said: “I struck the sides of my neck with me hands, and said: ‘No by the One Who sent you with the Truth! I possess nothing besides it.’ He said: ‘Then fast for two months’ I said: ‘O Messenger of Allah! Did this occur to me other than when I was fasting?’ He said: ‘Then feed sixty poor people.’ I said: ‘By the One Who sent you with the Truth! We have spent these nights of ours hungry without an evening meal.’ He said: ‘Go to the one with the charity from Banu Ruzaiq, tell him to give it to you, then feed a Wasq of it, on your behalf, to sixty poor people. Then help yourself and your dependants with the remainder of it.’” He said: “I returned to my people and said: ‘I found dejection and bad ideas with you, and I found liberalness and blessing with the Messenger of Allah. He ordered me to take your charity, so give it to me.’ So they gave it to me.”

كُنْتُ رَجُلاً قَدْ أُوتِيتُ مِنْ جِمَاعِ النِّسَاءِ مَا لَمْ يُؤْتَ غَيْرِي فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ رَمَضَانُ تَظَاهَرْتُ مِنَ امْرَأَتِي حَتَّى يَنْسَلِخَ رَمَضَانُ فَرَقًا مِنْ أَنْ أُصِيبَ مِنْهَا فِي لَيْلَتِي فَأَتَتَابَعَ فِي ذَلِكَ إِلَى أَنْ يُدْرِكَنِي النَّهَارُ وَأَنَا لاَ أَقْدِرُ أَنْ أَنْزِعَ فَبَيْنَمَا هِيَ تَخْدُمُنِي ذَاتَ لَيْلَةٍ إِذْ تَكَشَّفَ لِي مِنْهَا شَيْءٌ فَوَثَبْتُ عَلَيْهَا فَلَمَّا أَصْبَحْتُ غَدَوْتُ عَلَى قَوْمِي فَأَخْبَرْتُهُمْ خَبَرِي فَقُلْتُ انْطَلِقُوا مَعِي إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَأُخْبِرُهُ بِأَمْرِي فَقَالُوا لاَ وَاللَّهِ لاَ نَفْعَلُ نَتَخَوَّفُ أَنْ يَنْزِلَ فِينَا قُرْآنٌ أَوْ يَقُولَ فِينَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَقَالَةً يَبْقَى عَلَيْنَا عَارُهَا وَلَكِنِ اذْهَبْ أَنْتَ فَاصْنَعْ مَا بَدَا لَكَ قَالَ فَخَرَجْتُ فَأَتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَأَخْبَرْتُهُ خَبَرِي فَقَالَ أَنْتَ بِذَاكَ قُلْتُ أَنَا بِذَاكَ قَالَ أَنْتَ بِذَاكَ قُلْتُ أَنَا بِذَاكَ قَالَ أَنْتَ بِذَاكَ قُلْتُ أَنَا بِذَاكَ وَهَا أَنَا ذَا فَأَمْضِ فِيَّ حُكْمَ اللَّهِ فَإِنِّي صَابِرٌ لِذَلِكَ قَالَ أَعْتِقْ رَقَبَةً قَالَ فَضَرَبْتُ صَفْحَةَ عُنُقِي بِيَدِي فَقُلْتُ لاَ وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ مَا أَصْبَحْتُ أَمْلِكُ غَيْرَهَا قَالَ صُمْ شَهْرَيْنِ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَهَلْ أَصَابَنِي مَا أَصَابَنِي إِلاَّ فِي الصِّيَامِ قَالَ فَأَطْعِمْ سِتِّينَ مِسْكِينًا قُلْتُ وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ لَقَدْ بِتْنَا لَيْلَتَنَا هَذِهِ وَحْشَى مَا لَنَا عَشَاءٌ قَالَ اذْهَبْ إِلَى صَاحِبِ صَدَقَةِ بَنِي زُرَيْقٍ فَقُلْ لَهُ فَلْيَدْفَعْهَا إِلَيْكَ فَأَطْعِمْ عَنْكَ مِنْهَا وَسْقًا سِتِّينَ مِسْكِينًا ثُمَّ اسْتَعِنْ بِسَائِرِهِ عَلَيْكَ وَعَلَى عِيَالِكَ قَالَ فَرَجَعْتُ إِلَى قَوْمِي فَقُلْتُ وَجَدْتُ عِنْدَكُمُ الضِّيقَ وَسُوءَ الرَّأْىِ وَوَجَدْتُ عِنْدَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ السَّعَةَ وَالْبَرَكَةَ أَمَرَ لِي بِصَدَقَتِكُمْ فَادْفَعُوهَا إِلَىَّ فَدَفَعُوهَا إِلَىَّ

“I was a man who had an issue with intercourse with a women that none other than me had. When (the month of) Ramadan entered, I pronounced Zihar upon my wife (to last) until the end of Ramadan, fearing that I might have an encounter with her during the night, and I would continue doing that until daylight came upon me, and I would not be able to stop. One night while she was serving me, something of her became exposed for me, so I rushed myself upon her. When the morning came I went to my people to inform them about what happened to me. I said: ‘Accompany me to the Messenger of Allah to inform him about my case.’ They said: ‘No by Allah! We shall not do that, we feat that something will be revealed about us in the Qur’an, or the Messenger of Allah might say something about us, the disgrace of which will remain upon us. But you do and do whatever you want.’” He said: “So I left and I went to the Messenger of Allah, and informed him of my case. He said: ‘You are the one who did that?” I said: ‘I am the one.’ He said: ‘You are the one who did that?” I said: ‘I am the one.’ He said: ‘You are the one who did that?” I said: ‘I am the one, it is before you, so give me Allah’s judgment, for I shall be patient with that.’ He said: ‘Free a slave.’” He said: “I struck the sides of my neck with me hands, and said: ‘No by the One Who sent you with the Truth! I possess nothing besides it.’ He said: ‘Then fast for two months’ I said: ‘O Messenger of Allah! Did this occur to me other than when I was fasting?’ He said: ‘Then feed sixty poor people.’ I said: ‘By the One Who sent you with the Truth! We have spent these nights of ours hungry without an evening meal.’ He said: ‘Go to the one with the charity from Banu Ruzaiq, tell him to give it to you, then feed a Wasq of it, on your behalf, to sixty poor people. Then help yourself and your dependants with the remainder of it.’” He said: “I returned to my people and said: ‘I found dejection and bad ideas with you, and I found liberalness and blessing with the Messenger of Allah. He ordered me to take your charity, so give it to me.’ So they gave it to me.” (Using translation from Tirmidhī 3299)

كُنْتُ امْرَأً قَدْ أُوتِيتُ مِنْ جِمَاعِ النِّسَاءِ مَا لَمْ يُؤْتَ غَيْرِي فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ رَمَضَانُ تَظَاهَرْتُ مِنْ امْرَأَتِي حَتَّى يَنْسَلِخَ رَمَضَانُ فَرَقًا مِنْ أَنْ أُصِيبَ فِي لَيْلَتِي شَيْئًا فَأَتَتَابَعُ فِي ذَلِكَ إِلَى أَنْ يُدْرِكَنِي النَّهَارُ وَأَنَا لَا أَقْدِرُ عَلَى أَنْأَنْزِعَ فَبَيْنَا هِيَ تَخْدُمُنِي إِذْ تَكَشَّفَ لِي مِنْهَا شَيْءٌ فَوَثَبْتُ عَلَيْهَا فَلَمَّا أَصْبَحْتُ غَدَوْتُ عَلَى قَوْمِي فَأَخْبَرْتُهُمْ خَبَرِي وَقُلْتُ لَهُمْ انْطَلِقُوا مَعِي إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَأُخْبِرُهُ بِأَمْرِي فَقَالُوا لَا وَاللهِ لَا نَفْعَلُ نَتَخَوَّفُ أَنْ يُنْزِلَ فِينَا قُرْآنًا أَوْ يَقُولَ فِينَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ مَقَالَةً يَبْقَى عَلَيْنَا عَارُهَا وَلَكِنْ اذْهَبْ أَنْتَ فَاصْنَعْ مَا بَدَا لَكَ قَالَ فَخَرَجْتُ حَتَّى أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَأَخْبَرْتُهُ خَبَرِي فَقَالَ لِي أَنْتَ بِذَاكَ فَقُلْتُ أَنَا بِذَاكَ فَقَالَ أَنْتَ بِذَاكَ فَقُلْتُ أَنَا بِذَاكَ قَالَ أَنْتَ بِذَاكَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ هَا أَنَا ذَا فَأَمْضِ فِيَّ حُكْمَ اللهِ ﷻ فَإِنِّي صَابِرٌ لَهُ قَالَ أَعْتِقْ رَقَبَةً قَالَ فَضَرَبْتُ صَفْحَةَ رَقَبَتِي بِيَدِي وَقُلْتُ لَا وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ مَا أَصْبَحْتُ أَمْلِكُ غَيْرَهَا قَالَ فَصُمْ شَهْرَيْنِ قَالَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ وَهَلْ أَصَابَنِي مَا أَصَابَنِي إِلَّا فِي الصِّيَامِ قَالَ فَتَصَدَّقْ قَالَ فَقُلْتُ وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ لَقَدْ بِتْنَا لَيْلَتَنَا هَذِهِ وَحْشَا مَا لَنَا عَشَاءٌ قَالَ اذْهَبْ إِلَى صَاحِبِصَدَقَةِ بَنِي زُرَيْقٍ فَقُلْ لَهُ فَلْيَدْفَعْهَا إِلَيْكَ فَأَطْعِمْ عَنْكَ مِنْهَا وَسْقًا مِنْ تَمْرٍ سِتِّينَ مِسْكِينًا ثُمَّ اسْتَعِنْ بِسَائِرِهِ عَلَيْكِ وَعَلَى عِيَالِكَ قَالَ فَرَجَعْتُ إِلَى قَوْمِي فَقُلْتُ وَجَدْتُ عِنْدَكُمُ الضِّيقَ وَسُوءَ الرَّأْيِ وَوَجَدْتُ عِنْدَ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ السَّعَةَ وَالْبَرَكَةَ قَدْ أَمَرَ لِي بِصَدَقَتِكُمْ فَادْفَعُوهَا لِي قَالَ فَدَفَعُوهَا إِلَيَّ

"عَنِ ابن عباسٍ قال: خدمتُ عمرَ بنَ الخطابِ وكنتُ له هائبًا، ومعظِّمًا، فدخلتُ عليه ذاتَ يومٍ في بيته وقد خَلَا بِنَفْسِهِ فتنفَّسَ تَنَفُّسًا ظننتُ أَنَّ نَفْسَهُ خَرَجَتْ، ثم رفَعَ رأسَهُ إلى السَّمَاءِ فتنفس [الصعداء]، قال: فتحاملت وتشدَّدْتُ وقلتُ: واللَّه لأسأَلَنَّهُ فقلتُ: واللَّه ما أخرجَ هَذَا منكَ إلَّا هَمٌ يَا أَمِيرَ المؤمنينَ؟ قالَ: هَمُّ واللَّه. هَمُّ شَدِيدٌ، هَذَا الأمرُ لَمُ أَجِدْ لَهُ موضعًا -يعنى الخلافَةَ- ثم قالَ: لعلَّكَ تَقُولُ: إِنَّ صاحِبَكَ لَهَا -يَعْنِى عَليًّا- قالَ: قلتُ: يَا أَمِيرَ المؤمنين أَوَلَيْسَ هُوَ أَهْلَهَا في هجرتِهِ وأهلَهَا في صُحْبِتَهِ، وأهلَهَا في قَرَابَتِهِ؟ قَال: هُوَ كَمَا ذكرتَ، لكنه رجلٌ فيهِ دُعَابَةٌ، قالَ: فقلتُ: الزُّبَيْرُ، قال: وُعْقَة لَقَسٌ يقاتلُ على الصَّاعِ بالبقيعِ، قالَ: قلتُ: طلحَة، قالَ: إن فيهِ لَبَأْوًا وما أَرَى اللَّه مُعطيهِ خيرًا، وما بَرحَ ذلكَ فيهِ منذُ أُصيبَتْ يَدُهُ قَالَ: فقلتُ سعدًا، قالَ: يَحْضُرُ الناس ويقاتلُ وليسَ بصاحبِ هذا الأمرِ، قالَ: قُلْتَ: وعبد الرحمنِ بْن عوفٍ، قالَ: نعم المرءُ ذكرتَ، ولكنه ضعيفٌ، قَالَ: وأخرتُ عثمانَ لكثرةِ صَلاتِهِ وكان أحبَّ النَاس إلى قريشٍ، قال: فقلتُ: فعثمانَ، قالَ: أَوَّاهٌ، كَلِفَ بأَقَارِبِهِ، ثم قال: لو اسْتَعْمَلْتُهُ اسْتَعَمل بنى أميةَ أجمعينَ أكتَعِينَ، ويحملُ بَنِى معيط على رقابِ النَّاسِ، واللَّه لو فعلتُ لفَعَلَ، واللَّه! لو فعلت لفعل، إن هذا الأمرَ لا يحملُهُ إلا اللَّيِّن في غيرِ ضَعْفٍ، والقوىُّ في غير عُنفٍ، والجوادُ في غيرِ سَرَفٍ، والممسكُ في غيرِ بُخْل، قال: وقالَ عُمَرُ: لا يطيقُ هَذَا الأمرَ إلا رجلٌ لا يُصَانَعُ ولا يضَارع، ولا يتبعُ المطامِعَ، ولا يطيقُ أمرَ اللَّه إلا رجلٌ لا يتكلمُ بلسانِهِ كلمةً لا ينتقدُ عزمه، ويحكمُ في الحقِّ على حِزْبِهِ -وفِى الأَصْلِ- عَلَى وُجُوبِهِ".