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nasai-kubra:7455ʿUtbah b. ʿAbdullāh > Mālik b. Anas And al-Ḥārith b. Miskīn > Ibn al-Qāsim > Mālik > ʿAbdullāh b. ʿAbdullāh b. Jābir b. ʿAtīk > ʿAtīk b. al-Ḥārith > Jābir b. ʿAtīk

[Machine] He informed him that the Prophet ﷺ came to visit Abdullah bin Thabit and found him defeated, so he shouted at him but he did not respond. So the Messenger of Allah ﷺ called him back and said, "We have been defeated on your behalf, O Abu Al-Rabi." The women began to wail and cry, so Ibn Atik silenced them. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Leave them, for when calamity strikes, let them wail." They said, "What is the calamity, O Messenger of Allah?" He said, "Death."  

الكبرى للنسائي:٧٤٥٥أَخْبَرَنَا عُتْبَةُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ قَالَ قَرَأْتُ عَلَى مَالِكِ بْنِ أَنَسٍ وَالْحَارِثِ بْنِ مِسْكِينٍ قِرَاءَةً عَلَيْهِ وَأنا أَسْمَعُ عَنِ ابْنِ الْقَاسِمِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي مَالِكٌ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَتِيكٍ أَنَّ عَتِيكَ بْنَ الْحَارِثِ أَخْبَرَهُ أَنَّ جَابِرَ بْنَ عَتِيكٍ

أَخْبَرَهُ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ جَاءَ يَعُودُ عَبْدَ اللهِ بْنَ ثَابِتٍ فَوَجَدَهُ قَدْ غُلِبَ فَصَاحَ بِهِ فَلَمْ يُجِبْهُ فَاسْتَرْجَعَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ «غُلِبْنَا عَلَيْكَ يَا أَبَا الرَّبِيعِ» فَصِحْنَ النِّسْوَةُ وَبَكَيْنَ فَجَعَلَ ابْنُ عَتِيكٍ يُسَكِّتُهُنَّ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ «دَعْهُنَّ فَإِذَا وَجَبَتْ فَلَا تَبْكِيَنَّ بَاكِيَةٌ» قَالُوا وَمَا الْوُجُوبُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ؟ قَالَ الْمَوْتُ  


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bayhaqi:7153Abū Aḥmad ʿAbdullāh b. Muḥammad b. al-Ḥasan al-Mihrajānī > Abū Bakr Muḥammad b. Jaʿfar al-Muzakkī > Muḥammad b. Ibrāhīm al-Būshanjī > Ibn Bukayr > Mālik > ʿAbdullāh b. ʿAbdullāh b. Jābir b. ʿAtīk > ʿAtīk b. al-Ḥārith b. ʿAtīk / Jad ʿAbdullāh b. ʿAbdullāh Abū Ummih > Jābir b. ʿAtīk

[Machine] He informed him that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ came to visit Abdullah bin Thabit and found him defeated, so he shouted at him but he did not respond. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ retraced his steps and said, "We have conquered you, O Abu Ar-Rabi'a, and the women shouted and cried." Ibn 'Atiyyah silenced them, so the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Leave them, and when the victory comes, do not cry." "What is victory, O Messenger of Allah?" he asked. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "When he dies."  

البيهقي:٧١٥٣أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو أَحْمَدَ عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْحَسَنِ الْمِهْرَجَانِيُّ أنبأ أَبُو بَكْرٍ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ جَعْفَرٍ الْمُزَكِّي ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ الْبُوشَنْجِيُّ ثنا ابْنُ بُكَيْرٍ ثنا مَالِكٌ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَتِيكٍ عَنْ عَتِيكِ بْنِ الْحَارِثِ بْنِ عَتِيكٍ وَهُوَ جَدُّ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ أَبُو أُمِّهِ أَنَّهُ أَخْبَرَهُ أَنَّ جَابِرَ بْنَ عَتِيكٍ

أَخْبَرَهُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ جَاءَ يَعُودُ عَبْدَ اللهِ بْنَ ثَابِتٍ فَوَجَدَهُ قَدْ غُلِبَ فَصَاحَ بِهِ فَلَمْ يُجِبْهُ فَاسْتَرْجَعَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ وَقَالَ غُلِبْنَا عَلَيْكَ يَا أَبَا الرَّبِيعِ فَصَاحَ النِّسْوَةُ وَبَكَيْنَ فَجَعَلَ ابْنُ عَتِيكٍ يُسَكِّتُهُنَّ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ دَعْهُنَّ فَإِذَا وَجَبَ فَلَا تَبْكِيَنَّ بَاكِيَةٌ وَمَا الْوُجُوبُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ قَالَ إِذَا مَاتَ