When the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was commanded to give option to his wives, he started it from me saying: I am going to mention to you a matter which you should not (decide) in haste until you have consulted your parents. She said that he already knew that my parents would never allow me to seek separation from him She said: Then he said: Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, said: Prophet, say to thy wives: If you desire this world's life and its adornment, then come, I will give you a provision and allow you to depart a goodly departing; and if you desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the Hereafter, then Allah has prepared for the doers of good among you a great reward She is reported to have said: About what should I consult my parents, for I desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the Hereafter? She ('A'isha) said: Then all the wives of Messenger of Allah ﷺ did as I had done.  

لَمَّا أُمِرَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ بِتَخْيِيرِ أَزْوَاجِهِ بَدَأَ بِي فَقَالَ إِنِّي ذَاكِرٌ لَكِ أَمْرًا فَلاَ عَلَيْكِ أَنْ لاَ تَعْجَلِي حَتَّى تَسْتَأْمِرِي أَبَوَيْكِ قَالَتْ قَدْ عَلِمَ أَنَّ أَبَوَىَّ لَمْ يَكُونَا لِيَأْمُرَانِي بِفِرَاقِهِ قَالَتْ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ ﷻ قَالَ { يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ لأَزْوَاجِكَ إِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ الْحَيَاةَ الدُّنْيَا وَزِينَتَهَا فَتَعَالَيْنَ أُمَتِّعْكُنَّ وَأُسَرِّحْكُنَّ سَرَاحًا جَمِيلاً * وَإِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الآخِرَةَ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ أَعَدَّ لِلْمُحْسِنَاتِ مِنْكُنَّ أَجْرًا عَظِيمًا} قَالَتْ فَقُلْتُ فِي أَىِّ هَذَا أَسْتَأْمِرُ أَبَوَىَّ فَإِنِّي أُرِيدُ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الآخِرَةَ قَالَتْ ثُمَّ فَعَلَ أَزْوَاجُ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ مِثْلَ مَا فَعَلْتُ  

[Machine] The Prophet of Allah ﷺ came to me and said, "I will present a matter to you, and it is not necessary for you to rush until you consult your parents." So, I asked, "What is this matter?" She recited the verse to me, "O Prophet, say to your wives, 'If you should desire the worldly life and its adornment, then come, I will provide for you and give you a gracious release. But if you should desire Allah and His Messenger and the home of the Hereafter - then indeed, Allah has prepared for the doers of good among you a great reward.'" (Quran 33:29) Then I asked, "Why do you command me to consult my parents?" Instead, I want Allah and His Messenger and the Hereafter. So the Prophet ﷺ was pleased with this and said, "I will present to your companions what I presented to you." So he would say to them what he said to Aisha, and then he would say, "Aisha has chosen Allah and His Messenger and the Hereafter." Aisha said, "Indeed, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ gave us a choice, but we did not see that as a divorce."  

أَتَانِي نَبِيُّ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ إِنِّي سَأَعْرِضُ عَلَيْكِ أَمْرًا فَلَا عَلَيْكِ أَنْ لَا تَعْجَلِي حَتَّى تُشَاوِرِي أَبَوَيْكِ فَقُلْتُ وَمَا هَذَا الْأَمْرُ؟ قَالَتْ فَتَلَا عَلَيَّ {يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ لِأَزْوَاجِكَ إِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ الْحَيَاةَ الدُّنْيَا وَزِينَتَهَا فَتَعَالَيْنَ أُمَتِّعْكُنَّ وَأُسَرِّحْكُنَّ سَرَاحًا جَمِيلًا وَإِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ فَإِنَّ اللهَ أَعَدَّ لِلْمُحْسِنَاتِ مِنْكُنَّ أَجْرًا عَظِيمًا} [الأحزاب 29] قَالَتْ فَقُلْتُ وَفِي أَيِّ ذَلِكَ تَأْمُرُنِي أَنْ أُشَاوِرَ أَبَوَيَّ؟ بَلْ أُرِيدُ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ قَالَتْ فَسُرَّ بِذَلِكَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ وَأَعْجَبَهُ وَقَالَ سَأَعْرِضُ عَلَى صَوَاحِبِكِ مَا عَرَضْتُ عَلَيْكِ فَكَانَ يَقُولُ لَهُنَّ كَمَا قَالَ لِعَائِشَةَ ثُمَّ يَقُولُ قَدْ اخْتَارَتْ عَائِشَةُاللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ فَقَدْ خَيَّرَنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَلَمْ نَرَ ذَلِكَ طَلَاقًا  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ came to me and said, "I am going to propose something to you, but you shouldn't rush it. Consult your parents first." I asked him, "What is this matter?" He recited to me the verse from Surah Al-Ahzab: "O Prophet, tell your wives: If you desire the life of this world and its adornment, then come, I will provide for you and release you in a gracious manner. But if you desire Allah and His Messenger and the home of the Hereafter, then indeed, Allah has prepared for the doers of good among you a great reward." Aisha said, "I asked him if that meant I should consult my parents. He said, 'No, I mean that you should desire Allah, His Messenger, and the home of the Hereafter.' The Prophet ﷺ was delighted with my response and said, 'I will present to your co-wives what I have presented to you.' I told him not to inform them about my choice, but he didn't do so. He would tell them the same thing he told me and then say, 'Aisha has chosen Allah, His Messenger, and the home of the Hereafter.' Aisha said, 'The Messenger of Allah ﷺ gave us the choice, and we never saw it as divorce.'"  

أَتَانِي رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ إِنِّي سَأَعْرِضُ عَلَيْكِ أَمْرًا فَلَا عَلَيْكِ أَنْ تَعْجَلِي فِيهِ حَتَّى تُشَاوِرِي أَبَوَيْكِ فَقُلْتُ وَمَا هَذَا الْأَمْرُ؟ قَالَتْ فَتَلَا عَلَيَّ {يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ لِأَزْوَاجِكَ إِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ الْحَيَاةَ الدُّنْيَا وَزِينَتَهَا فَتَعَالَيْنَ أُمَتِّعْكُنَّ وَأُسَرِّحْكُنَّ سَرَاحًا جَمِيلًا وَإِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُوَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ فَإِنَّ اللهَ أَعَدَّ لِلْمُحْسِنَاتِ مِنْكُنَّ أَجْرًا عَظِيمًا} [الأحزاب 29] قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ فَقُلْتُ وَفِي ذَلِكَ تَأْمُرُنِي أَنْ أُشَاوِرَ أَبَوَيَّ؟ بَلْ أُرِيدُ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ قَالَتْ فَسُرَّ بِذَلِكَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ وَأَعْجَبَهُ وَقَالَ سَأَعْرِضُ عَلَى صَوَاحِبِكِ مَا عَرَضْتُ عَلَيْكِ قَالَتْ فَقُلْتُ لَهُ فَلَا تُخْبِرْهُنَّ بِالَّذِي اخْتَرْتُ فَلَمْ يَفْعَلْ وَكَانَ يَقُولُ لَهُنَّ كَمَا قَالَ لِعَائِشَةَ ثُمَّ يَقُولُ قَدْ اخْتَارَتْ عَائِشَةُ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ قَدْ خَيَّرَنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَلَمْ نَرَ ذَلِكَ طَلَاقًا