The Prophet ﷺ said, "The deceased is tortured in his grave for the wailing done over him." Narrated Shu'ba: The deceased is tortured for the wailing of the living ones over him .  

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ الْمَيِّتُ يُعَذَّبُ فِي قَبْرِهِ بِمَا نِيحَ عَلَيْهِ  

One of the daughters of ʿUthman died at Mecca. We went to attend her funeral procession. Ibn ʿUmar and Ibn ʿAbbas were also present. I sat in between them (or said, I sat beside one of them. Then a man came and sat beside me.) ʿAbdullah bin ʿUmar said to ʿAmr bin ʿUthman, "Will you not prohibit crying as Messenger of Allah ﷺ has said, 'The dead person is tortured by the crying of his relatives.?" Ibn ʿAbbas said, "ʿUmar used to say so." Then he added narrating, "I accompanied ʿUmar on a journey from Mecca till we reached Al-Baida. There he saw some travelers in the shade of a Samura (A kind of forest tree). He said (to me), "Go and see who those travelers are." So I went and saw that one of them was Suhaib. I told this to ʿUmar who then asked me to call him. So I went back to Suhaib and said to him, "Depart and follow the chief of the faithful believers." Later, when ʿUmar was stabbed, Suhaib came in weeping and saying, "O my brother, O my friend!" (on this ʿUmar said to him, "O Suhaib! Are you weeping for me while the Prophet ﷺ said, "The dead person is punished by some of the weeping of his relatives?" Ibn ʿAbbas added, "When ʿUmar died I told all this to Aisha and she said, 'May Allah be merciful to ʿUmar. By Allah, Messenger of Allah ﷺ did not say that a believer is punished by the weeping of his relatives. But he said, Allah increases the punishment of a non-believer because of the weeping of his relatives." Aisha further added, "The Qur'an is sufficient for you (to clear up this point) as Allah has stated: 'No burdened soul will bear another's burden.' " (35.18). Ibn ʿAbbas then said, "Only Allah makes one laugh or cry." Ibn ʿUmar did not say anything after that.  

جَلَسْتُ إِلَى أَحَدِهِمَا ثُمَّ جَاءَ الآخَرُ فَجَلَسَ إِلَى جَنْبِي فَقَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عَمَرَ ؓ لِعَمْرِو بْنِ عُثْمَانَ أَلاَ تَنْهَى عَنِ الْبُكَاءِ فَإِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ ؓ قَدْ كَانَ عُمَرُ ؓ يَقُولُ بَعْضَ ذَلِكَ ثُمَّ حَدَّثَ قَالَ صَدَرْتُ مَعَ عُمَرَ ؓ مِنْ مَكَّةَ حَتَّى إِذَا كُنَّا بِالْبَيْدَاءِ إِذَا هُوَ بِرَكْبٍ تَحْتَ ظِلِّ سَمُرَةٍ فَقَالَ اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ مَنْ هَؤُلاَءِ الرَّكْبُ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ فَإِذَا صُهَيْبٌ فَأَخْبَرْتُهُ فَقَالَ ادْعُهُ لِي فَرَجَعْتُ إِلَى صُهَيْبٍ فَقُلْتُ ارْتَحِلْ فَالْحَقْ أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ فَلَمَّا أُصِيبَ عُمَرُ دَخَلَ صُهَيْبٌ يَبْكِي يَقُولُ وَاأَخَاهُ وَاصَاحِبَاهُ فَقَالَ عُمَرُ ؓ يَا صُهَيْبُ أَتَبْكِي عَلَىَّ وَقَدْ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ يُعَذَّبُ بِبَعْضِ بُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ قَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ ؓ فَلَمَّا مَاتَ عُمَرُ ؓ ذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِعَائِشَةَ ؓ فَقَالَتْ رَحِمَ اللَّهُ عُمَرَ وَاللَّهِ مَا حَدَّثَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَيُعَذِّبُ الْمُؤْمِنَ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ وَلَكِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَيَزِيدُ الْكَافِرَ عَذَابًا بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ وَقَالَتْ حَسْبُكُمُ الْقُرْآنُ {وَلاَ تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَى} قَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ ؓ عِنْدَ ذَلِكَ وَاللَّهُ هُوَ أَضْحَكَ وَأَبْكَى قَالَ ابْنُ أَبِي مُلَيْكَةَ وَاللَّهِ مَا قَالَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ ؓ شَيْئًا  

It was mentioned before ʿAisha that Ibn ʿUmar attributed the following statement to the Prophet ﷺ "The dead person is punished in the grave because of the crying and lamentation Of his family." On that, ʿAisha said, "But Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, 'The dead person is punished for his crimes and sins while his family cry over him then." She added, "And this is similar to the statement of Messenger of Allah ﷺ when he stood by the (edge of the) well which contained the corpses of the pagans killed at Badr, 'They hear what I say.' She added, "But he said now they know very well what I used to tell them was the truth." ʿAisha then recited: 'You cannot make the dead hear.' (30.52) and 'You cannot make those who are in their Graves, hear you.' (35.22) that is, when they had taken their places in the (Hell) Fire.  

ذُكِرَ عِنْدَ عَائِشَةَ ؓ أَنَّ ابْنَ عُمَرَ رَفَعَ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ يُعَذَّبُ فِي قَبْرِهِ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ فَقَالَتْ إِنَّمَا قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِنَّهُ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِخَطِيئَتِهِ وَذَنْبِهِ وَإِنَّ أَهْلَهُ لَيَبْكُونَ عَلَيْهِ الآنَ قَالَتْ وَذَاكَ مِثْلُ قَوْلِهِ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَامَ عَلَى الْقَلِيبِ وَفِيهِ قَتْلَى بَدْرٍ مِنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ فَقَالَ لَهُمْ مَا قَالَ إِنَّهُمْ لَيَسْمَعُونَ مَا أَقُولُ إِنَّمَا قَالَ إِنَّهُمُ الآنَ لَيَعْلَمُونَ أَنَّ مَا كُنْتُ أَقُولُ لَهُمْ حَقٌّ ثُمَّ قَرَأَتْ {إِنَّكَ لاَ تُسْمِعُ الْمَوْتَى} {وَمَا أَنْتَ بِمُسْمِعٍ مَنْ فِي الْقُبُورِ} تَقُولُ حِينَ تَبَوَّءُوا مَقَاعِدَهُمْ مِنَ النَّارِ  

(the wife of the Prophet) Once Messenger of Allah ﷺ passed by (the grave of) a Jewess whose relatives were weeping over her. He said, "They are weeping over her and she is being tortured in her grave."  

أَنَّهَا سَمِعَتْ عَائِشَةَ ؓ زَوْجَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَتْ إِنَّمَا مَرَّ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَلَى يَهُودِيَّةٍ يَبْكِي عَلَيْهَا أَهْلُهَا فَقَالَ إِنَّهُمْ لَيَبْكُونَ عَلَيْهَا وَإِنَّهَا لَتُعَذَّبُ فِي قَبْرِهَا