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hakim:2696Abū Bakr Muḥammad b. ʿAbdullāh b. Quraysh > al-Ḥasan b. Sufyān > Muḥammad b. Abū Bakr al-Muqaddamī

The Prophet ﷺ said: When one of you asked a woman in marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so. He (Jabir) said: I asked a girl in marriage, I used to look at her secretly, until I looked at what induced me to marry her. I, therefore, married her. (Using translation from Abū Dāʾūd 2082)   

الحاكم:٢٦٩٦أَخْبَرَنِي أَبُو بَكْرٍ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ قُرَيْشٍ ثنا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ سُفْيَانَ ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ أَبِي بَكْرٍ الْمُقَدَّمِيُّ أَخْبَرَنِي عُمَرُ بْنُ عَلِيِّ بْنِ مُقَدَّمٍ ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ الْحُصَيْنِ عَنْ وَاقِدِ بْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ مُعَاذٍ عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «إِذَا خَطَبَ أَحَدُكُمُ امْرَأَةً فَإِنِ اسْتَطَاعَ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إِلَى بَعْضِ مَا يَدْعُوهُ إِلَى نِكَاحِهَا فَلْيَفْعَلْ» فَخَطَبْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنْ بَنِي سُلَيْمٍ فَكُنْتُ أَتَخَبَّأُ لَهَا فِي أُصُولِ النَّخْلِ حَتَّى رَأَيْتُ مِنْهَا مَا دَعَانِي إِلَى نِكَاحِهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا  

«هَذَا حَدِيثٌ صَحِيحٌ عَلَى شَرْطِ مُسْلِمٍ وَلَمْ يُخَرِّجَاهُ وَإِنَّمَا أَخْرَجَ مُسْلِمٌ فِي هَذَا الْبَابِ حَدِيثَ يَزِيدَ بْنِ كَيْسَانَ عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ مُخْتَصَرًا» على شرط مسلم

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abudawud:2082Musaddad > ʿAbd al-Wāḥid b. Ziyād > Muḥammad b. Isḥāq > Dāwud b. Ḥuṣayn > Wāqid b. ʿAbd al-Raḥman / Ibn Saʿd b. Muʿādh > Jābir b. ʿAbdullāh

The Prophet ﷺ said: When one of you asked a woman in marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so. He (Jabir) said: I asked a girl in marriage, I used to look at her secretly, until I looked at what induced me to marry her. I, therefore, married her.  

أبو داود:٢٠٨٢حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَاحِدِ بْنُ زِيَادٍ حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ حُصَيْنٍ عَنْ وَاقِدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ يَعْنِي ابْنَ سَعْدِ بْنِ مُعَاذٍ عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِذَا خَطَبَ أَحَدُكُمُ الْمَرْأَةَ فَإِنِ اسْتَطَاعَ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إِلَى مَا يَدْعُوهُ إِلَى نِكَاحِهَا فَلْيَفْعَلْ قَالَ فَخَطَبْتُ جَارِيَةً فَكُنْتُ أَتَخَبَّأُ لَهَا حَتَّى رَأَيْتُ مِنْهَا مَا دَعَانِي إِلَى نِكَاحِهَا وَتَزَوُّجِهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا  

ahmad:14586Yūnus b. Muḥammad > ʿAbd al-Wāḥid b. Ziyād > Muḥammad b. Isḥāq > Dāwud b. al-Ḥuṣayn > Wāqid b. ʿAbd al-Raḥman b. Saʿd b. Muʿādh > Jābir

The Prophet ﷺ said: When one of you asked a woman in marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so. He (Jabir) said: I asked a girl in marriage, I used to look at her secretly, until I looked at what induced me to marry her. I, therefore, married her. (Using translation from Abū Dāʾūd 2082)   

أحمد:١٤٥٨٦حَدَّثَنَا يُونُسُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَاحِدِ بْنُ زِيَادٍ حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ الْحُصَيْنِ عَنْ وَاقِدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ سَعْدِ بْنِ مُعَاذٍ عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِذَا خَطَبَ أَحَدُكُمُ الْمَرْأَةَ فَإِنْ اسْتَطَاعَ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ مِنْهَا إِلَى مَا يَدْعُوهُ إِلَى نِكَاحِهَا فَلْيَفْعَلْ قَالَ فَخَطَبْتُ جَارِيَةً مِنْ بَنِي سَلِمَةَ فَكُنْتُ أَخْتَبِئُ لَهَا تَحْتَ الْكَرَبِ حَتَّى رَأَيْتُ مِنْهَا بَعْضَ مَا دَعَانِي إِلَى نِكَاحِهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا  

bayhaqi:13487Abū ʿAbdullāh al-Ḥāfiẓ And ʾAbū Bakr Aḥmad b. al-Ḥasan al-Qāḍī > Abū al-ʿAbbās Muḥammad b. Yaʿqūb > Abū Zurʿah ʿAbd al-Raḥman b. ʿAmr al-Dimashqī > Aḥmad b. Khālid > Muḥammad b. Isḥāq > Dāwud b. al-Ḥuṣayn > Wāqid b. ʿAmr b. Saʿd b. Muʿādh > Jābir b. ʿAbdullāh > Rasūl Allāh Ṣllá

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "When one of you proposes to a woman and is satisfied with what he sees from her and is drawn to her, then let him proceed." Jabir said, "I proposed to a woman from the tribe of Salimah and I used to hide in the date palm trees until I saw something that pleased me, then I married her."  

البيهقي:١٣٤٨٧أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ الْحَافِظُ وَأَبُو بَكْرٍ أَحْمَدُ بْنُ الْحَسَنِ الْقَاضِي قَالَا ثنا أَبُو الْعَبَّاسِ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ ثنا أَبُو زُرْعَةَ عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ عَمْرٍو الدِّمَشْقِيُّ ثنا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ خَالِدٍ ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ الْحُصَيْنِ عَنْ وَاقِدِ بْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ سَعْدِ بْنِ مُعَاذٍ عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ ؓ قَالَ

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِذَا خَطَبَ أَحَدُكُمُ الْمَرْأَةَ فَقَدِرَ عَلَى أَنْ يَرَى مِنْهَا مَا يُعْجِبُهُ وَيَدْعُوهُ إِلَيْهَا فَلْيَفْعَلْ قَالَ جَابِرٌ فَلَقَدْ خَطَبْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنْ بَنِي سَلِمَةَ فَكُنْتُ أَتَخَبَّأُ فِي أُصُولِ النَّخْلِ حَتَّى رَأَيْتُ مِنْهَا بَعْضَ مَا أَعْجَبَنِي فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا