[Machine] The Sunnah in these two verses that Allah ﷻ mentioned about a person's rebellion and his turning away from his wife is that if a man disobeys his wife and shows preference to another woman, then it is his duty to offer her a divorce or to keep her with him based on what she was previously entitled to from the responsibilities of himself and his wealth. If she chooses to stay with him on those terms and does not want a divorce, then there is no harm on him in what he has chosen over her. If he does not offer her a divorce and reconciles with her by giving her whatever she is satisfied with from his wealth and agrees to her right to what she was previously entitled to from the responsibilities of himself and his wealth, then it is permissible and valid for them to reconcile. This is what Sa'id bin Al-Musayyib and Suleiman As-Sulhi mentioned when Allah ﷻ said, "There is no sin on them if they reconcile on those terms, and reconciliation is better." I was told that Rafe' bin Khadeej Al-Ansari, one of the companions of the Prophet ﷺ, had a wife, and when she became old, he married a young girl over her. And she asked him for a divorce, so he divorced her once, then he gave her a waiting period until she was about to end it, then he took her back. Then he favored the young girl over her, so she asked him for a divorce again, so he divorced her a second time, then he gave her a waiting period until she was about to end it, then he took her back. Then he favored the young girl over her again, so she asked him for a divorce again. He said to her, "You may have only one divorce left. If you wish, you can settle on what you see fits from your rights, and if you wish, I will separate from you." She said, "No, I would rather settle on what I have been favored with." So he kept her on those terms, and he did not commit any sin when she consented to settle on what he had chosen over her.
أَنَّ السُّنَّةَ فِي هَاتَيْنِ الْآيَتَيْنِ اللَّتَيْنِ ذَكَرَ اللهُ ﷻ فِيهِمَا نُشُوزَ الْمَرْءِ وَإِعْرَاضَهُ عَنِ امْرَأَتِهِ فِي قَوْلِهِ {وَإِنِ امْرَأَةٌ خَافَتْ مِنْ بَعْلِهَا نُشُوزًا أَوْ إِعْرَاضًا} [النساء 128] إِلَى تَمَامِ الْآيَتَيْنِ أَنَّ الْمَرْءَ إِذَا نَشَزَ عَنِ امْرَأَتِهِ وَآثَرَ عَلَيْهَا فَإِنَّ مِنَ الْحَقِّ عَلَيْهِ أَنْ يَعْرِضَ عَلَيْهَا أَنْ يُطَلِّقَهَا أَوْ تَسْتَقِرَّ عِنْدَهُ عَلَى مَا كَانَتْ مِنْ أَثَرَةٍ فِي الْقَسَمِ مِنْ نَفْسِهِ وَمَالِهِ فَإِنِ اسْتَقَرَّتْ عِنْدَهُ عَلَى ذَلِكَ وَكَرِهَتْ أَنْ يُطَلِّقَهَا فَلَا حَرَجَ عَلَيْهِ فِيمَا آثَرَ عَلَيْهِمَا مِنْ ذَلِكَ فَإِنْ لَمْ يَعْرِضْ عَلَيْهَا الطَّلَاقَ وَصَالَحَهَا عَلَى أَنْ يُعْطِيَهَا مِنْ مَالِهِ مَا تَرْضَاهُ وَتَقَرُّ عِنْدَهُ عَلَى الْأَثَرَةِ فِي الْقَسَمِ مِنْ مَالِهِ وَنَفْسِهِ صَلُحَ لَهُ ذَلِكَ وَجَازَ صُلْحُهُمَا عَلَيْهِ كَذَلِكَ ذَكَرَ سَعِيدُ بْنُ الْمُسَيِّبِ وَسُلَيْمَانُ الصُّلْحَ الَّذِي قَالَ اللهُ ﷻ {لَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَنْ يُصْلِحَا بَيْنَهُمَا صُلْحًا وَالصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ} وَقَدْ ذُكِرَ لِي أَنَّ رَافِعَ بْنَ خَدِيجٍ الْأَنْصَارِيَّ وَكَانَ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ كَانَتْ عِنْدَهُ امْرَأَةٌ حَتَّى إِذَا كَبِرَتْ تَزَوَّجَ عَلَيْهَا فَتَاةً شَابَّةً فَآثَرَ عَلَيْهَا الشَّابَّةَ فَنَاشَدَتْهُ الطَّلَاقَ فَطَلَّقَهَا تَطْلِيقَةً ثُمَّ أَمْهَلَهَا حَتَّى إِذَا كَادَتْ تَحِلُّ رَاجَعَهَا ثُمَّ عَادَ فَآثَرَ الشَّابَّةَ عَلَيْهَا فَنَاشَدَتْهُ الطَّلَاقَ فَطَلَّقَهَا تَطْلِيقَةً أُخْرَى ثُمَّ أَمْهَلَهَا حَتَّى إِذَا كَادَتْ تَحِلُّ رَاجَعَهَا ثُمَّ عَادَ فَآثَرَ الشَّابَّةَ عَلَيْهَا فَنَاشَدَتْهُ الطَّلَاقَ فَقَالَ مَا شِئْتِ إِنَّمَا بَقِيَتْ لَكِ تَطْلِيقَةٌ وَاحِدَةٌ فَإِنْ شِئْتِ اسْتَقْرَرْتِ عَلَى مَا تَرَيْنَ مِنَ الْأَثَرَةِ وَإِنْ شِئْتِ فَارَقْتُكِ فَقَالَتْ لَا بَلِ أَسْتَقِرُّ عَلَى الْأَثَرَةِ فَأَمْسَكَهَا عَلَى ذَلِكَ فَكَانَ ذَلِكَ صُلْحَهُمَا وَلَمْ يَرَ رَافِعٌ عَلَيْهِ إِثْمًا حِينَ رَضِيَتْ بِأَنْ تَسْتَقِرَّ عِنْدَهُ عَلَى الْأَثَرَةِ فِيمَا آثَرَ بِهِ عَلَيْهَا