[Machine] Abu Abdullah Al-Hafiz informed us that Abu Hassan At-Taraifi and Abu Muhammad Al-Ka'bi said: Ismail ibn Qutaybah narrated to us, who narrated from Yazid ibn Salih, who narrated from Bukayr ibn Ma'roof, who narrated from Muqatil ibn Hayyan, who said: "We were informed, and Allah knows best, that the meaning of the verse {And do not make a secret appointment with them} [Al-Baqarah 235] means engaging in sexual intercourse with one's wife without her knowledge, and others said it refers to adultery, and Allah knows best. And we were also narrated from Al-Hasan that he said about secret appointment: Send to her during her 'iddah and say to her, 'I desire you and I am eager for you, and I wanted to inform you that once your 'iddah is completed, I will see your point of view.' And Ata' said, he should make a proposal without revealing his intention, saying 'I have a need, and be glad, for with the grace of Allah, you are a desirable woman.' And she would say, 'I have heard what you said.' And Ata' also said, if a man makes an appointment with a woman during her 'iddah period and then marries her afterwards, there is no need for them to be separated."  

أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ الْحَافِظُ أنبأ أَبُو الْحَسَنِ الطَّرَائِفِيُّ وَأَبُو مُحَمَّدٍ الْكَعْبِيُّ قَالَا ثنا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ قُتَيْبَةَ ثنا يَزِيدُ بْنُ صَالِحٍ عَنْ بُكَيْرِ بْنِ مَعْرُوفٍ عَنْ مُقَاتِلِ بْنِ حَيَّانَ قَالَ بَلَغَنَا وَاللهُ أَعْلَمُ أَنَّ مَعْنَى {لَا تُوَاعِدُوهُنَّ سِرًّا} [البقرة 235] الرَّفَثُ مِنَ الْكَلَامِ أَيْ لَا يُوَاجِهُهَا الرَّجُلُ فِي تَعْرِيضِ الْجِمَاعِ مِنْ نَفْسِهِ وَيَقُولُ آخَرُونَ هُوَ الزِّنَا وَاللهُ أَعْلَمُ وَرُوِّينَا عَنِ الْحَسَنِ أَنَّهُ قَالَ فِي التَّعْرِيضِ يُرْسِلُ إِلَيْهَا فِي عِدَّتِهَا يَقُولُ إِنِّي فِيكِ لَرَاغِبٌ وَإِنِّي عَلَيْكِ لَحَرِيصٌ فَأَحْبَبْتُ أَنْ أُعْلِمَكِ فَإِذَا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُكِ رَأَيْتُ رَأْيَكِ وَعَنْ عَطَاءٍ قَالَ يُعَرِّضُ فَلَا يَبُوحُ يَقُولُ إِنَّ لِي حَاجَةً وَأَبْشِرِي فَأَنْتِ بِحَمْدِ اللهِ نَافِقَةٌ وَتَقُولُ هِيَ قَدْ أَسْمَعُ مَا تَقُولُ وَعَنْ عَطَاءٍ قَالَ إِنْ وَاعَدَتْ رَجُلًا فِي عِدَّتِهَا ثُمَّ نَكَحَهَا بَعْدُ لَمْ يُفَرَّقْ بَيْنَهُمَا