29. Divorce (3/3)

٢٩۔ كتاب الطلاق ص ٣

29.1 The Irrevocable Divorce

٢٩۔١ باب مَا جَاءَ فِي الْبَتَّةِ

malik:29-101Yaḥyá > Mālik > Yaḥyá b. Saʿīd > al-Qāsim b. Muḥammad > In Yazīd b. ʿAbd al-Malik Farraq Bayn Rijāl And Bayn Nisāʾihim Wakun Ummahāt Awlād Rijāl Halakūā Fatazawwajūhun Baʿd Ḥayḍah Aw Ḥayḍatayn Fafarraq Baynahum Ḥattá Yaʿtaddūn Arbaʿah Ashhur Waʿashr > al-Qāsim b. Muḥammad Subḥān Allāh

Yahya related to me from Malik that Yahya ibn Said said that he had heard al-Qasim ibn Muhammad say that Zayd ibn Abd al-Malik separated some men and their wives who were slave-girls who had borne children to men who had died, because they had married them after one or two menstrual periods. He separated them until they had done an idda of four months and ten days. Al-Qasim ibn Muhammad said, "Glory be to Allah! Allah says in His Book, 'Those of you who die, leaving wives, they are not wives.' "  

مالك:٢٩-١٠١حَدَّثَنِي يَحْيَى عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ سَعِيدٍ أَنَّهُ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ الْقَاسِمَ بْنَ مُحَمَّدٍ يَقُولُ

إِنَّ يَزِيدَ بْنَ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ فَرَّقَ بَيْنَ رِجَالٍ وَبَيْنَ نِسَائِهِمْ وَكُنَّ أُمَّهَاتِ أَوْلاَدِ رِجَالٍ هَلَكُوا فَتَزَوَّجُوهُنَّ بَعْدَ حَيْضَةٍ أَوْ حَيْضَتَيْنِ فَفَرَّقَ بَيْنَهُمْ حَتَّى يَعْتَدُّونَ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا فَقَالَ الْقَاسِمُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ يَقُولُ اللَّهُ فِي كِتَابِهِ وَالَّذِينَ يُتَوَفَّوْنَ مِنْكُمْ وَيَذَرُونَ أَزْوَاجًا مَا هُنَّ مِنَ الأَزْوَاجِ  

malik:29-102Mālik > Nāfiʿ > ʿAbdullāh b. ʿUmar

Malik related to me from Nafi that Abdullah ibn Umar said, "The idda of an umm walad when her master dies is one menstrual period."  

مالك:٢٩-١٠٢وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ نَافِعٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ

أَنَّهُ قَالَ عِدَّةُ أُمِّ الْوَلَدِ إِذَا تُوُفِّيَ عَنْهَا سَيِّدُهَا حَيْضَةٌ  

malik:29-103Mālik > Yaḥyá b. Saʿīd > al-Qāsim b. Muḥammad

Malik said, "This is what is done among us." Malik added, "If she does not have a menstrual period, her idda is three months."  

مالك:٢٩-١٠٣وَحَدَّثَنِي مَالِكٌ عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ سَعِيدٍ عَنِ الْقَاسِمِ بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ

أَنَّهُ كَانَ يَقُولُ عِدَّةُ أُمِّ الْوَلَدِ إِذَا تُوُفِّيَ عَنْهَا سَيِّدُهَا حَيْضَةٌ قَالَ مَالِكٌ وَهُوَ الأَمْرُ عِنْدَنَا قَالَ مَالِكٌ وَإِنْ لَمْ تَكُنْ مِمَّنْ تَحِيضُ فَعِدَّتُهَا ثَلاَثَةُ أَشْهُرٍ  

malik:29-104Yaḥyá > Mālik > Balaghah

Yahya related to me from Malik that he had heard that Said ibn al-Musayyab and Sulayman ibn Yasar said, "The idda of a slave-girl when her husband dies is two months and five days."  

مالك:٢٩-١٠٤حَدَّثَنِي يَحْيَى عَنْ مَالِكٍ أَنَّهُ بَلَغَهُ

أَنَّ سَعِيدَ بْنَ الْمُسَيَّبِ وَسُلَيْمَانَ بْنَ يَسَارٍ كَانَا يَقُولاَنِ عِدَّةُ الأَمَةِ إِذَا هَلَكَ عَنْهَا زَوْجُهَا شَهْرَانِ وَخَمْسُ لَيَالٍ  

malik:29-105Mālik > Ibn Shihāb Mithl Dhalik

Yahya related to me the like of that from Malik from Ibn Shihab. Malik said, about a slave who divorced a slave-girl but did not make it absolute, "He can return to her. If he then dies while she is still in the idda from her divorce, she does the idda of a slave- girl whose husband dies, and it is two months and five days. If she has been set free and he can return to her, and she does not choose to separate after she has been set free, and he dies while she is in the idda from the divorce, she does the idda of a free woman whose husband has died, four months and ten days. That is because the idda of widowhood befell her while she was free, so her idda is the idda of a free woman." Malik said, "That is what is done among us."  

مالك:٢٩-١٠٥وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ مِثْلَ ذَلِكَ

قَالَ مَالِكٌ فِي الْعَبْدِ يُطَلِّقُ الأَمَةَ طَلاَقًا لَمْ يَبُتَّهَا فِيهِ لَهُ عَلَيْهَا فِيهِ الرَّجْعَةُ ثُمَّ يَمُوتُ وَهِيَ فِي عِدَّتِهَا مِنْ طَلاَقِهِ إِنَّهَا تَعْتَدُّ عِدَّةَ الأَمَةِ الْمُتَوَفَّى عَنْهَا زَوْجُهَا شَهْرَيْنِ وَخَمْسَ لَيَالٍ وَإِنَّهَا إِنْ عَتَقَتْ وَلَهُ عَلَيْهَا رَجْعَةٌ ثُمَّ لَمْ تَخْتَرْ فِرَاقَهُ بَعْدَ الْعِتْقِ حَتَّى يَمُوتَ وَهِيَ فِي عِدَّتِهَا مِنْ طَلاَقِهِ اعْتَدَّتْ عِدَّةَ الْحُرَّةِ الْمُتَوَفَّى عَنْهَا زَوْجُهَا أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا وَذَلِكَ أَنَّهَا إِنَّمَا وَقَعَتْ عَلَيْهَا عِدَّةُ الْوَفَاةِ بَعْدَ مَا عَتَقَتْ فَعِدَّتُهَا عِدَّةُ الْحُرَّةِ قَالَ مَالِكٌ وَهَذَا الأَمْرُ عِنْدَنَا  

malik:29-106Yaḥyá > Mālik > Rabīʿah b. Abū ʿAbd al-Raḥman > Muḥammad b. Yaḥyá b. Ḥabbān > Ibn Muḥayrīz

Yahya related to me from Malik from Rabia ibn Abi Abd ar-Rahman from Muhammad ibn Yahya ibn Habban that Ibn Muhayriz said, "I went into the mosque and saw Abu Said al-Khudri and so I sat by him and asked him about coitus interruptus. Abu Said al-Khudri said, 'We went out with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ on the expedition to the Banu al-Mustaliq. We took some Arabs prisoner, and we desired the women as celibacy was hard for us. We wanted the ransom, so we wanted to practise coitus interruptus. We said, 'Shall we practise coitus interruptus while the Messenger of Allah ﷺ is among us before we ask him?' We asked him about that and he said, 'You don't have to not do it. There is no self which is to come into existence up to the Day of Rising but that it will come into existence.' "  

مالك:٢٩-١٠٦حَدَّثَنِي يَحْيَى عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ رَبِيعَةَ بْنِ أَبِي عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ يَحْيَى بْنِ حَبَّانَ عَنِ ابْنِ مُحَيْرِيزٍ

أَنَّهُ قَالَ دَخَلْتُ الْمَسْجِدَ فَرَأَيْتُ أَبَا سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيَّ فَجَلَسْتُ إِلَيْهِ فَسَأَلْتُهُ عَنِ الْعَزْلِ فَقَالَ أَبُو سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيُّ خَرَجْنَا مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي غَزْوَةِ بَنِي الْمُصْطَلِقِ فَأَصَبْنَا سَبْيًا مِنْ سَبْىِ الْعَرَبِ فَاشْتَهَيْنَا النِّسَاءَ وَاشْتَدَّتْ عَلَيْنَا الْعُزْبَةُ وَأَحْبَبْنَا الْفِدَاءَ فَأَرَدْنَا أَنْ نَعْزِلَ فَقُلْنَا نَعْزِلُ وَرَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ بَيْنَ أَظْهُرِنَا قَبْلَ أَنْ نَسْأَلَهُ فَسَأَلْنَاهُ عَنْ ذَلِكَ فَقَالَ مَا عَلَيْكُمْ أَنْ لاَ تَفْعَلُوا مَا مِنْ نَسَمَةٍ كَائِنَةٍ إِلَى يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ إِلاَّ وَهِيَ كَائِنَةٌ  

malik:29-107Mālik > Abū al-Naḍr a freed slave of ʿUmar b. ʿUbaydullāh > ʿĀmir b. Saʿd b. Abū Waqqāṣ from his father

Yahya related to me from Malik from Abu'n-Nadr, the mawla of Umar ibn Ubaydullah from Amir ibn Sad ibn Abi Waqqas from his father that he used to practise coitus interruptus.  

مالك:٢٩-١٠٧وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ أَبِي النَّضْرِ مَوْلَى عُمَرَ بْنِ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ عَنْ عَامِرِ بْنِ سَعْدِ بْنِ أَبِي وَقَّاصٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ

أَنَّهُ كَانَ يَعْزِلُ  

malik:29-108Mālik > Abū al-Naḍr a freed slave of ʿUmar b. ʿUbaydullāh > Ibn Aflaḥ a freed slave of Abū Ayyūb al-Anṣārī > Um And Lad Lʾabī Ayyūb al-Anṣārī

Yahya related to me from Malik from Abu'n-Nadr, the mawla of Umar ibn Ubaydullah from Ibn Aflah, the mawla of Abu Ayyub al-Ansari from an umm walad of Abu Ayyubal-Ansari that he practised coitus interruptus.  

مالك:٢٩-١٠٨وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ أَبِي النَّضْرِ مَوْلَى عُمَرَ بْنِ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ عَنِ ابْنِ أَفْلَحَ مَوْلَى أَبِي أَيُّوبَ الأَنْصَارِيِّ عَنْ أُمِّ وَلَدٍ لأَبِي أَيُّوبَ الأَنْصَارِيِّ

أَنَّهُ كَانَ يَعْزِلُ  

malik:29-109Mālik > Nāfiʿ > ʿAbdullāh b. ʿUmar

Yahya related to me from Malik from Nafi that Abdullah ibn Umar did not practise coitus interruptus and thought that it was disapproved.  

مالك:٢٩-١٠٩وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ نَافِعٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ

أَنَّهُ كَانَ لاَ يَعْزِلُ وَكَانَ يَكْرَهُ الْعَزْلَ  

malik:29-110Mālik > Ḍamrah b. Saʿīd al-Māzinī > al-Ḥajjāj b. ʿAmr b. Ghaziyyah

Yahya related to me from Malik from Damra ibn Said al-Mazini from al-Hajjaj ibn Amr ibn Ghaziya that he was sitting with Zayd ibn Thabit when Ibn Fahd came to him. He was from the Yemen. He said, "Abu Said! I have slave-girls. None of the wives in my keep are more pleasing to me than them, and not all of them please me so much that I want a child by them, shall I then practise coitus interruptus?" Zayd ibn Thabit said, "Give an opinion, Hajjaj!" "I said, 'May Allah forgive you! We sit with you in order to learn from you!' He said, 'Give an opinion! 'I said, 'She is your field, if you wish, water it, and if you wish, leave it thirsty. I heard that from Zayd.' Zayd said, 'He has spoken the truth.' "  

مالك:٢٩-١١٠وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ ضَمْرَةَ بْنِ سَعِيدٍ الْمَازِنِيِّ عَنِ الْحَجَّاجِ بْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ غَزِيَّةَ

أَنَّهُ كَانَ جَالِسًا عِنْدَ زَيْدِ بْنِ ثَابِتٍ فَجَاءَهُ ابْنُ قَهْدٍ رَجُلٌ مِنْ أَهْلِ الْيَمَنِ فَقَالَ يَا أَبَا سَعِيدٍ إِنَّ عِنْدِي جَوَارِيَ لِي لَيْسَ نِسَائِي اللاَّتِي أُكِنُّ بِأَعْجَبَ إِلَىَّ مِنْهُنَّ وَلَيْسَ كُلُّهُنَّ يُعْجِبُنِي أَنْ تَحْمِلَ مِنِّي أَفَأَعْزِلُ فَقَالَ زَيْدُ بْنُ ثَابِتٍ أَفْتِهِ يَا حَجَّاجُ قَالَ فَقُلْتُ يَغْفِرُ اللَّهُ لَكَ إِنَّمَا نَجْلِسُ عِنْدَكَ لِنَتَعَلَّمَ مِنْكَ قَالَ أَفْتِهِ قَالَ فَقُلْتُ هُوَ حَرْثُكَ إِنْ شِئْتَ سَقَيْتَهُ وَإِنْ شِئْتَ أَعْطَشْتَهُ قَالَ وَكُنْتُ أَسْمَعُ ذَلِكَ مِنْ زَيْدٍ فَقَالَ زَيْدٌ صَدَقَ  

malik:29-111Mālik > Ḥumayd b. Qays al-Makkī

Yahya related to me from Malik from Humayd ibn Qays al-Makki that a man called Dhafif said that Ibn Abbas was asked about coitus interruptus. He called a slave-girl of his and said, "Tell them." She was embarrassed. He said, "It is alright, and I do it myself." Malik said, "A man does not practise coitus interruptus with a free woman unless she gives her permission. There is no harm in practising coitus interruptus with a slave-girl without her permission. Someone who has someone else's slave-girl as a wife, does not practise coitus interruptus with her unless her people give him permission."  

مالك:٢٩-١١١وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ حُمَيْدِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ الْمَكِّيِّ عَنْ رَجُلٍ يُقَالُ لَهُ ذَفِيفٌ أَنَّهُ قَالَ

سُئِلَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ عَنِ الْعَزْلِ فَدَعَا جَارِيَةً لَهُ فَقَالَ أَخْبِرِيهِمْ فَكَأَنَّهَا اسْتَحْيَتْ فَقَالَ هُوَ ذَلِكَ أَمَّا أَنَا فَأَفْعَلُهُ يَعْنِي أَنَّهُ يَعْزِلُ قَالَ مَالِكٌ لاَ يَعْزِلُ الرَّجُلُ عَنِ الْمَرْأَةِ الْحُرَّةِ إِلاَّ بِإِذْنِهَا وَلاَ بَأْسَ أَنْ يَعْزِلَ عَنْ أَمَتِهِ بِغَيْرِ إِذْنِهَا وَمَنْ كَانَتْ تَحْتَهُ أَمَةُ قَوْمٍ فَلاَ يَعْزِلُ إِلاَّ بِإِذْنِهِمْ  

malik:29-112Yaḥyá > Mālik > ʿAbdullāh b. Abū Bakr b. Muḥammad b. ʿAmr b. Ḥazm > Ḥumayd b. Nāfiʿ > Zaynab Bint Abū Salamah > Hadhih al-Aḥādīth al-Thalāthah

Yahya related to me from Malik from Abdullah ibn Abi Bakr ibn Muhammad ibn Amr ibn Hazm from Humayd ibn Nafi that Zaynab bint Abi Salama related these three traditions to him. Zaynab said, "I visited Umm Habiba, the wife of the Prophet ﷺ when her father Abu Sufyan ibn Harb had died. Umm Habiba called for a yellowy perfume perhaps khaluq or something else. She rubbed the perfume first on a slave-girl and she then wiped it on the sides of her face and said, 'By Allah! I have no need of perfume but I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, 'It is not halal for a woman who trusts in Allah and the Last Day to abstain from adornment in mourning for someone who has died, for more than three nights, except for four months and ten days for a husband.' "  

مالك:٢٩-١١٢حَدَّثَنِي يَحْيَى عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي بَكْرِ بْنِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ حَزْمٍ عَنْ حُمَيْدِ بْنِ نَافِعٍ عَنْ زَيْنَبَ بِنْتِ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ أَنَّهَا أَخْبَرَتْهُ هَذِهِ الأَحَادِيثَ الثَّلاَثَةَ

قَالَتْ زَيْنَبُ دَخَلْتُ عَلَى أُمِّ حَبِيبَةَ زَوْجِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ حِينَ تُوُفِّيَ أَبُوهَا أَبُو سُفْيَانَ بْنُ حَرْبٍ فَدَعَتْ أُمُّ حَبِيبَةَ بِطِيبٍ فِيهِ صُفْرَةٌ خَلُوقٌ أَوْ غَيْرُهُ فَدَهَنَتْ بِهِ جَارِيَةً ثُمَّ مَسَحَتْ بِعَارِضَيْهَا ثُمَّ قَالَتْ وَاللَّهِ مَا لِي بِالطِّيبِ مِنْ حَاجَةٍ غَيْرَ أَنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ لاَ يَحِلُّ لاِمْرَأَةٍ تُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ أَنْ تُحِدَّ عَلَى مَيْتٍ فَوْقَ ثَلاَثِ لَيَالٍ إِلاَّ عَلَى زَوْجٍ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا  

malik:29-113

Zaynab said, "I went to the house of Zaynab bint Jahsh, the wife of the Prophet ﷺ when her brother had died. She called for perfume and put some on and said, 'By Allah! I have no need of perfume, but I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, 'It is not halal for a woman who trusts in Allah and the Last Day to abstain from adornment in mourning for someone who has died for more than three nights, except for four months and ten days for a husband.' "  

مالك:٢٩-١١٣

قَالَتْ زَيْنَبُ ثُمَّ دَخَلْتُ عَلَى زَيْنَبَ بِنْتِ جَحْشٍ زَوْجِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ حِينَ تُوُفِّيَ أَخُوهَا فَدَعَتْ بِطِيبٍ فَمَسَّتْ مِنْهُ ثُمَّ قَالَتْ وَاللَّهِ مَا لِي بِالطِّيبِ حَاجَةٌ غَيْرَ أَنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ لاَ يَحِلُّ لاِمْرَأَةٍ تُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ تُحِدُّ عَلَى مَيْتٍ فَوْقَ ثَلاَثِ لَيَالٍ إِلاَّ عَلَى زَوْجٍ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا  

malik:29-114Zaynab

Zaynab said, "I heard my mother, Umm Salama, the wife of the Prophet ﷺ say that a woman came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said, 'Messenger of Allah! My daughter's husband died, and her eyes are troubling her, can she put kohl on them?' The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, 'No' two or three times. Then he said, 'It is only four months and ten days. In the Jahiliyya, none of you threw away the piece of dung until a year had passed.' " Humayd ibn Nafi said, "I asked Zaynab to explain what 'throwing away the piece of dung at the end of a year' meant. Zaynab said, 'In the Jahiliyya when a woman's husband died, she went into a small tent and dressed in the worst of clothes. She did not touch perfume or anything until a year had passed. Then she was brought an animal - a donkey, a sheep, or a bird, and she would break her idda with it, by rubbing her body against it (taftaddu). Rarely did she break her idda with anything (by rubbing herself against it) but that it died. Then she would come out and would be given a piece of dung. She would throw it away and then return to whatever she wished of perfumes or whatever.' " Malik explained, 'Taftaddu' means to wipe her skin with it in the same way as with a healing charm."  

مالك:٢٩-١١٤قَالَتْ زَيْنَبُ

وَسَمِعْتُ أُمِّي أُمَّ سَلَمَةَ زَوْجَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ تَقُولُ جَاءَتِ امْرَأَةٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ ابْنَتِي تُوُفِّيَ عَنْهَا زَوْجُهَا وَقَدِ اشْتَكَتْ عَيْنَيْهَا أَفَتَكْحُلُهُمَا فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ لاَ مَرَّتَيْنِ أَوْ ثَلاَثًا كُلُّ ذَلِكَ يَقُولُ لاَ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِنَّمَا هِيَ أَرْبَعَةُ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا وَقَدْ كَانَتْ إِحْدَاكُنَّ فِي الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ تَرْمِي بِالْبَعْرَةِ عَلَى رَأْسِ الْحَوْلِ قَالَ حُمَيْدُ بْنُ نَافِعٍ فَقُلْتُ لِزَيْنَبَ وَمَا تَرْمِي بِالْبَعْرَةِ عَلَى رَأْسِ الْحَوْلِ فَقَالَتْ زَيْنَبُ كَانَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ إِذَا تُوُفِّيَ عَنْهَا زَوْجُهَا دَخَلَتْ حِفْشًا وَلَبِسَتْ شَرَّ ثِيَابِهَا وَلَمْ تَمَسَّ طِيبًا وَلاَ شَيْئًا حَتَّى تَمُرَّ بِهَا سَنَةٌ ثُمَّ تُؤْتَى بِدَابَّةٍ حِمَارٍ أَوْ شَاةٍ أَوْ طَيْرٍ فَتَفْتَضُّ بِهِ فَقَلَّمَا تَفْتَضُّ بِشَىْءٍ إِلاَّ مَاتَ ثُمَّ تَخْرُجُ فَتُعْطَى بَعْرَةً فَتَرْمِي بِهَا ثُمَّ تُرَاجِعُ بَعْدُ مَا شَاءَتْ مِنْ طِيبٍ أَوْ غَيْرِهِ  

malik:29-115Mālik > Nāfiʿ > Ṣafiyyah Bint Abū ʿUbayd

Yahya related to me from Malik from Nafi from Safiyya bint Abi Ubayd from A'isha and Hafsa, the wives of the Prophet ﷺ that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "It is not halal for a woman in mourning for someone who has died, if she trusts in Allah and the Last Day, to abstain from adornment for more than three nights, except for a husband."  

مالك:٢٩-١١٥وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ نَافِعٍ عَنْ صَفِيَّةَ بِنْتِ أَبِي عُبَيْدٍ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ وَحَفْصَةَ زَوْجَىِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ

أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ لاَ يَحِلُّ لاِمْرَأَةٍ تُؤْمِنُ  

malik:29-116Mālik > Balaghah

Yahya related to me from Malik that he had heard that Umm Salama, the wife of the Prophet ﷺ said to a woman in mourning for her husband whose eyes were troubling her and the pain had become very strong, "Apply jala kohl at night and wipe it off in the day."  

مالك:٢٩-١١٦وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ أَنَّهُ بَلَغَهُ

أَنَّ أُمَّ سَلَمَةَ زَوْجَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَتْ لاِمْرَأَةٍ حَادٍّ عَلَى زَوْجِهَا اشْتَكَتْ عَيْنَيْهَا فَبَلَغَ ذَلِكَ مِنْهَا اكْتَحِلِي بِكُحْلِ الْجِلاَءِ بِاللَّيْلِ وَامْسَحِيهِ بِالنَّهَارِ  

malik:29-117Mālik > Balaghah

Yahya related to me from Malik that he had heard that Salim ibn Abdullah and Sulayman ibn Yasar said that if a woman whose husband had died feared that an inflammation of her eyes might affect her sight or that some complaint might befall her, she should put kohl on and seek a remedy with kohl or some other cure even if it had perfume in it. Malik said, "If there is a necessity, the deen of Allah is ease."  

مالك:٢٩-١١٧وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ أَنَّهُ بَلَغَهُ

عَنْ سَالِمِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ وَسُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ يَسَارٍ أَنَّهُمَا كَانَا يَقُولاَنِ فِي الْمَرْأَةِ يُتَوَفَّى عَنْهَا زَوْجُهَا إِنَّهَا إِذَا خَشِيَتْ عَلَى بَصَرِهَا مِنْ رَمَدٍ أَوْ شَكْوٍ أَصَابَهَا إِنَّهَا تَكْتَحِلُ وَتَتَدَاوَى بِدَوَاءٍ أَوْ كُحْلٍ وَإِنْ كَانَ فِيهِ طِيبٌ قَالَ مَالِكٌ وَإِذَا كَانَتِ الضَّرُورَةُ فَإِنَّ دِينَ اللَّهِ يُسْرٌ  

malik:29-118Mālik > Nāfi

Yahya related to me from Malik from Nafic that Saffiyya bint Abi Ubayd suffered from an eye-complaint while she was in mourning for her husband, Abdullah ibn Umar. She did not apply kohl until her eyes almost had ramas (a dry white secretion in the corners of the eye). Malik said, "A woman whose husband has died should anoint her eyes with olive oil and sesame oil and the like of that since there is no perfume in it." Malik said, "A woman in mourning for her husband should not put on any jewellery - rings, anklets, or such- like, neither should she dress in any sort of colourful, striped garment unless it is coarse. She should not wear any cloth dyed with anything except black, and she should only dress her hair with things like lotus-tree leaves which do not dye the hair."  

مالك:٢٩-١١٨وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ نَافِعٍ

أَنَّ صَفِيَّةَ بِنْتَ أَبِي عُبَيْدٍ اشْتَكَتْ عَيْنَيْهَا وَهِيَ حَادٌّ عَلَى زَوْجِهَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ فَلَمْ تَكْتَحِلْ حَتَّى كَادَتْ عَيْنَاهَا تَرْمَصَانِ قَالَ مَالِكٌ تَدَّهِنُ الْمُتَوَفَّى عَنْهَا زَوْجُهَا بِالزَّيْتِ وَالشَّبْرَقِ وَمَا أَشْبَهَ ذَلِكَ إِذَا لَمْ يَكُنْ فِيهِ طِيبٌ قَالَ مَالِكٌ وَلاَ تَلْبَسُ الْمَرْأَةُ الْحَادُّ عَلَى زَوْجِهَا شَيْئًا مِنَ الْحَلْىِ خَاتَمًا وَلاَ خَلْخَالاً وَلاَ غَيْرَ ذَلِكَ مِنَ الْحَلْىِ وَلاَ تَلْبَسُ شَيْئًا مِنَ الْعَصْبِ إِلاَّ أَنْ يَكُونَ عَصْبًا غَلِيظًا وَلاَ تَلْبَسُ ثَوْبًا مَصْبُوغًا بِشَىْءٍ مِنَ الصِّبْغِ إِلاَّ بِالسَّوَادِ وَلاَ تَمْتَشِطُ إِلاَّ بِالسِّدْرِ وَمَا أَشْبَهَهُ مِمَّا لاَ يَخْتَمِرُ فِي رَأْسِهَا  

malik:29-119Mālik > Balaghah

108 Yahya related to me from Malik that he had heard that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ visited Umm Salama while she was in mourning for Abu Salama and she had put aloes on her eyes. He said, "What is this, Umm Salama?" She said, "It is only aloes, Messenger of Allah." He said, "Put it on at night and wipe it off in the daytime." Malik said, "The mourning of a young girl who has not yet had a menstrual period takes the same form as the mourning of one who has had a period. She avoids what a mature woman avoids if her husband dies." Malik said, "A slave-girl mourns her husband when he dies for two months and five nights like her idda.'' Malik said, "An umm walad does not have to mourn when her master dies, and a slave-girl does not have to mourn when her master dies. Mourning is for those with husbands."  

مالك:٢٩-١١٩وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ أَنَّهُ بَلَغَهُ

أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ دَخَلَ عَلَى أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ وَهِيَ حَادٌّ عَلَى أَبِي سَلَمَةَ وَقَدْ جَعَلَتْ عَلَى عَيْنَيْهَا صَبِرًا فَقَالَ مَا هَذَا يَا أُمَّ سَلَمَةَ فَقَالَتْ إِنَّمَا هُوَ صَبِرٌ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ اجْعَلِيهِ فِي اللَّيْلِ وَامْسَحِيهِ بِالنَّهَارِ  

malik:29-120Mālik > Balaghah

Yahya related to me from Malik that he had heard that Umm Salama, the wife of the Prophet ﷺ said, "A mourning woman can rub her head with lotus leaves and olive oil.''  

مالك:٢٩-١٢٠وَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ مَالِكٍ أَنَّهُ بَلَغَهُ

أَنَّ أُمَّ سَلَمَةَ زَوْجَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ كَانَتْ تَقُولُ تَجْمَعُ الْحَادُّ رَأْسَهَا بِالسِّدْرِ وَالزَّيْتِ